we are all born asleep, disconnected from our spiritual selves. ME is the center of our universe. our fallen nature [freudian:ego/id, old nature, kingdom of self, pride] wants to rise above everyone else. our ego/pride wants to control everything. I am captain of my own soul. I am better than you because I work harder. i am more wonderful than you. and I am smarter than you.
but the soul is completely empty of love, joy, and peace.
when a soul in this state loves, it's all about ME. what you can give ME. what you can do for ME. how you can pleasure ME.